3. THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE
Here it becomes evident that the Roman Catholic Church and the Orthodox
Church differ in their understanding of the purpose of
marriage. In orthodox theological thinking this is firstly the
reciprocal love, the relationship and the help between the marriage partners
with view to their completion in Christ. Only subsequently comes the
restraining of their sexual passion[7] and the
reproduction[8] of the human race. It is remarkable that
in the New Testament we find no reference relating marriage to reproduction.
In the Roman Catholic Church it is evident that the ultimate purpose of
marriage is procreation or reproduction. To see reproduction as the
principal purpose of marriage is a narrow perspective on the conjugal life of
man and wife. What value does sexual intercourse have between man and wife in
the case of sterility or after the menopause, or if the wife is medically
unable to have any more children? It is certain that the married couple have
precedence above the family, however praiseworthy the purpose of family
is.[9] The story of the establishing of marriage is
found in the second chapter of the book Genesis, which deals with the fact
that “a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his
wife, and they will become one flesh” (Gen. 2, 24),
without mention of reproduction. The Holy John Chrysostom refers to
this: “There are two reasons for which marriage was established
…to cause the man to be satisfied with one single wife and to give him
children, but it is the first which is the most important… As for
reproduction, marriage does not necessarily include this…the proof is
to be found in the many marriages for which having children is not possible.
This is why the primary reason for marriage is to regulate the sexual life,
especially now that the human race has already populated the whole
world".[10]
[…]
[7] The physical unity — of which the apostle Paul
says that they are “temples of the Holy Spirit — is a great deal
more than simple pleasure or a remedy for the sexual urge! See Ign. Peckstadt,
in Het orthodox huwelijk in Een open venster op de Orthodoxe
Kerk, (The orthodox marriage in An open window on the
Orthodox Church), Averbode, 2005.
[8] Ch. Catzopoulos, The holy sacrament of marriage
— mixed marriages, Athens, 1990, p.39 (in Greek). See also Ch.
Vantsos, Marriage and her preparation from an orthodox pastoral point of
view, Athens, 1977, pp.83-99 (in Greek).
[9] Ign. Peckstadt, Het orthodox huwelijk in
Een open venster op de Orthodoxe Kerk, (The orthodox
marriage in An open window on the Orthodox Church), Averbode,
2005.
[10] Speech on marriage. See P. Evdokimov, Le
sacerdoce conjugal — essai de théologie orthodoxe du
mariage, in Le mariage – églises en dialogue,
(The conjugal priesthood – essay on the orthodox theology of
marriage, in The marriage – churches and dialogue),
Paris, 1966, p. 94.